just a thought

[Liz]

Due to the fact that I've been forced to reconsider those who I think of as "friends", I've realized that there are only one or two people that I really know who they are(and that's being generous). I feel like I'm closer to you guys than I am to most of my "friends". You know it's bad when your friends have different people that they hang out with and you have no clue who they are and they've never bothered to intoduce you. Plus, they're always calling you their "best friend". Psh. Right.

Call it pathetic, call it sad, call it anti-social, I don't really care. I'm just venting at this point.

[Koushiro]

Yes, i know how you feel. I have "friends" exactly like that. Sometimes i think that im just someone there for them to talk to when there other friends are either out of not about.
Also, i act more like a friend to them then there other mates but still they dont care.

Yet, there the only two people in my area i have any chance of ever connecting to.

[Intrigue]

Yeah... I know how that can feel. But what you have to bear in mind is the difference between 'us' and 'they.' When they say you're their best friend, they could very well mean it-- I myself have a lot of close friends who don't necessarily fit in with another group that I know. A lot of people close to me have friends that I've never even met and... Yes, it can hurt, but they have lives too, something which I've forgotten from time to time and need to be reminded of. What matters is that they genuinely care for you, even if you don't fit into some of their social cliques.

[Liz]

intrigue said:

Yeah... I know how that can feel. But what you have to bear in mind is the difference between 'us' and 'they.' When they say you're their best friend, they could very well mean it-- I myself have a lot of close friends who don't necessarily fit in with another group that I know. A lot of people close to me have friends that I've never even met and... Yes, it can hurt, but they have lives too, something which I've forgotten from time to time and need to be reminded of. What matters is that they genuinely care for you, even if you don't fit into some of their social cliques.

True. The thing that really set me going was that we had made plans to go to our senior banquet together with a few other of our friends and at the last minute she decided to inform me that she was going with five or six of her friends from work and that "oh, well you could come with us, if you want." Pff. Right. It just steamed me that she was the one who had said we should all go together, yet she ditched us at the last minute. I hadn't even wanted to go to the thing in the first place.

*sigh* I know I'm being harsh, but if I hadn't taken the incentive to call her and ask if she had directions to the hall, I would never had known of her other plans.

[onine]

nonsense, you aren't being harsh at all. I've been there, and I've felt worse. Don't sweat it. They dont sound like they are worthy of your friendship anyway. You are too good for them. ;D

Listen, Don't waste your time on people who aren't worthy of it! You sit there down on yourself for not being shown the same respect and courtesy when there is someone or a whole mess of someones who would die to meet someone straight up like you. I've only had 1 friend like that my entire life. That sort of friend is the only type you really need. The other types will cut your throat if you let 'em.

[psidan]

It's like someone who's part of a naturally telepathic group of humans and tries to live with her husband who is not telepathic. She shares more with the group, her real thoughts, then her husband and that can really hurt to have a relationship like that. As for those 'friends' try and just stay neutral with them. It won't do good to dislike them or hate them, but trying to be totally innocent and loving and such is too hard.