Friend

[firesea]

A good friend of mine is having alot of trouble with empathy, she is very good at this and shields almost constantly. She is starting to find that her shields are causing her immense headaches but if she lets them down it gets even worse and she picks up even more pain (from whoever she is getting it from) She sometimes finds that she can feel it from as far away from the next house so moving away from people in the room doesnt work as it might not be them- any suggestions to stop the pain/help her shield would be much appreciated!

[JediKaren]

I've found over the years the best way to avoid empathy is not to think about it. Keep yourself busy in places that make your empathy go crazy. Don't think about it. Try strain yourself with shields. Relaxing is always a good answer.

[firesea]

Thanks for that- i think its the pain though thats the problem

[lonewolf]

Ok well shielding wont help your friend in this situation. When you are in the situation you are describing learning how to de-tach from people will grand you results strait away.
the problem is that she is auto-maticly connecting with people and thus sensing there emotions. as you can see you cant shield when 'you' are linking to them, not them trying to establish a link and 'send' there emotions.

for me its quite simple. i just visulise myself, close my eyes and feel out all the connections/links that are comming off of me. i then simply cut the connection/link.
for a begginer it might be easyer to just visulise the links already there, then feel the all out. this way you can see them and then verify that each link orgigonates to a persific energy sig.
killing connections are quite easy too. The easyest way it just visulise a giant pare of sissors cutting though each connection. Its important that you see the conenction cut. If that seems to easy then just visulise fire burning though each link.
Once you get good enugh at it, you will start get the feeling of it being done, so you will be able to just feel them all being cut/severd.

well that should do the trick, of course shield afterwoods also.

its important to do this exersise a few times daily and it will impover your empathy. I would surgest you learn more controll also, as this will help you have your own will stop picking up from people.

best of luck

your friend
MasterWolf

[firesea]

Thanks for that suggestion, shes got some help now, a friend said theyd shield her and shes got a better control over her shields and isnt affected as much now- it was just a shock at first.